Quite a lot of couples who are married will tell you that they suffer with a lack of sex in their marriage. Most men will tell you they don’t get enough and they need more sex. When you first start courting you can’t get enough of each other.
The same happens when you first get married. Nothing will stop you now you have your own place. Think of all the places you had sex when you first got married and got your own place. I’m quite sure that you tried every room and probably the stairs. I’m quite sure you both managed to have sex more than once a day if the need took you.
What changes in the marriage to cause couples to have less sex? What brings about these changes? Having children can often be the cause of this. Your time can be taken up by bringing up your kids. Even more so when your partner goes out to work and your left at home bringing up baby.
By the time your partner arrives home from work you’re absolutely worn out, all you want to do is crawl into bed and get some well earned rest. Your partner will probably feel unloved and put upon. Your partner will feel this is unfair as he has been to work all day. Each partner may begin to feel resentful, but this is a common story.
There could be different reasons why there is no sex in the marriage. Being stressed, over worked, taking each other for granted are all problems that could cause strain within a marriage. Another thing which could cause problems with your sex life is medication.
If you want to get the sex back into your relationship think about how you can change it. It is pointless trying to blame each other for the problem. You both need to talk and find out what you can do about it. Both of you need to change this current state of affairs. Try to start afresh and take your marriage back to the begining. I’m not telling you to have sex all day, everyday, but I am telling you to find yourself again.
Forget sex for a few nights just kiss and cuddle. Have a laugh in the bedroom. Pay more attention to each other’s needs. Don’t be selfish about your own needs, think about your partners. Bring foreplay back into your relationship. Make sex fun again, and something you both enjoy.
To stop the lack of sex in your marriage do things like, lighting candles, romantic dinner’s, dressing up, massages, curling up on the sofa, feeding each other food. Think of different things which could excite up your sex life again. You could always arrange for someone to sit with the children while you both go out for the evening.
More importantly start thinking in your mind about what you would like to do to each other.